For anyone who has implemented Rabbi Shalom Arush's phenomenally successful advice for a winning marriage, the following research published in Psychology Today is impossible to imagine.
Researchers Allison Scott and Laura Stafford found that one out of ten women experience depression in the first year of marriage.
What is leading newlywed couples to experience this post-wedding let down?
They interviewed a group of newlywed women who became depressed after their weddings to try to determine the reason.
"The women had funneled all of their time and energy into planning their big day, and now they weren’t quite sure what to do with themselves...The depressed brides viewed their weddings as the end goal. In contrast, happy brides viewed their weddings as the start of a new chapter."
According to the US Census Bureau there are 2.3 million couples getting married every year in the US. According to the study published in Psychology Today, this means that 230,000 women a year are becoming depressed after their wedding day in the U.S. alone!
Here is one of the "tips" that the researchers recommend to young couples to prevent viewing the wedding day as an end in itself:
1. Restrict talking about your wedding to a few nights a month, and speak instead about non-wedding things together.
With all due respect, I have a different recommendation. For men it is to read The Garden of Peace. For women - read Women's Wisdom. These books became instant best sellers in Israel for a reason. Rabbi Arush, whose track record as a marital counselor is simply phenomenal, only gives advice that is girded firmly in the foundations of Talmudic and Jewish esoteric thought - every page is crystal clear and reader friendly and can help people from all backgrounds regardless of whether you are planning your wedding or need an improvement in your current marriage. You can order the books right here.
Dr. Zev Ballen
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