Peace in the home ranks first in importance when it comes to serving Hashem. Marital peace is the primary receptacle of Divine Illumination in the world. The happier the marriage, the more the couple actually feels Hashem's presence in their midst. Anyone who faithfully follows our guidelines for marriage is guaranteed to taste the sweetness of true marital bliss.
Carry this prayer by Rabbi Arush with you and read it whenever you need inspiration. Men or women can use this:
Master of the Universe, have mercy on my wife/husband, on my children, on me, and on all those who are dependent on me. Let me understand that my happiness and success depends on my wife's/husband's happiness, namely, that she/he feels that she's/he's the most important part of my life. Master of the Universe, have mercy on me and instill in my heart an abundance of love for my wife/husband, a love that is greater than anything in the world. Have mercy on me so that my heart won't tempt me in any way whatsoever. Help me to successfully withstand all the trials and tests that come my way, and that I will always place my wife/husband and her/his needs, aspirations, and desires above everything else. Let me internalize the knowledge that this is Your desire in Your Divine wisdom. Let my wife/husband feel that she's/he's truly the most important part of my life.
Dr. Zev Ballen