a young man, let's call him Alex, who is learning how to decipher G-d's
messages, and who is acting on what G-d is trying to tell him.
Recently, Alex and his wife went out and bought a new car, which was a
big purchase for them. They agreed that Alex would use the car one day a
week, and that his wife would have it the rest of the time. Alex could
do most of what he needed to do very easily traveling by bus and train,
but his wife was with the kids, or going shopping, and having the car
would make a huge difference to how quickly and easily she could
complete her chores.
was meant to be Alex's car day, but it started to happen that every
single Thursday, his wife was asking him if she could have the car
instead. The first week, no problem. By the second week already, Alex is
starting to feel uncomfortable: she's asking him for the car again, but
she's a reasonable person, and she knows Thursday is his car day.
What's going on here? He tries to talk to his wife about it, and she
offers to take him wherever he wants on Thursday, to drop him off and
pick him up. But she still needs the car… Alex is finding it hard to
agree. After all those years of no car, and now his one day to drive
himself around, wherever he wants, without having to worry about anyone
else's schedule or timetable. The freedom of the open road… Before they
know it, this couple is having fights every single week about the car.
the old days, this could have got very complicated, very quickly. Alex
would be feeling very disgruntled about how unfair the whole situation
is, but now, he goes to speak to G-d about it instead. "G-d, please let
me understand what's going on here. I've read the Garden of Peace, and
I'm remembering now that the world is a mirror,
and that everything is a message from You. What are You trying to tell
me through my wife? I know that she's the speaker system that's
amplifying the message that you want me to get. What it is?" Continue here...
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G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting
today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chesed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at
5:00 PM Israel time.
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If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to
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lesson for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:o1 AM Monday (Israel
What makes a successful or failed relationship? How can people get closer to each other, and more committed to each other, over time? What really causes strife between two people?
We're going to look at these questions, and others, now, to see if we can really get underneath what's going on in our relationships. The first thing to understand is that people speak in code all the time. They don't just come out and tell you what's bothering them - instead, we get a whole bunch of clues and hints, some of which aren't even verbal.
Let's take an example: There's a businessman who's having a hard time. The recession has hit, and he's overstocked on merchandise. All of a sudden, the business that he's been building up for years starts sinking. In the meantime, he promised his wife a certain standard of living when they got married, and now he can't deliver on what he promised.
The problem didn't start with the business sinking. The problem started right back at the beginning of the marriage, when the man made a lot of mistakes and failed to treat his wife like an adult, and a real partner in his life. He didn't share what's really going on in his life, in his head, and make her feel important and significant and valued as a person in her own right.
He figured he'd let his money do the talking for him - which kind of worked when he had the money to give her. But now? Now she's feeling left out and resentful and angry. As a result, she's continuing to spend the money that they don't have - and that she doesn't even really want to be spending!
Why is this happening?
It's happening because the husband is failing to meet the wife's deeper needs. It looks like they are fighting over the money, but really, that's a minor detail. When he's telling his wife that they don't have the money, and he's rebuking her for overspending, what he's really saying is that he feels his wife is somehow sabotaging him, and that she doesn't want his efforts to turn things around economically to succeed. He's telling her that she's making him feel as though he's a failure.
In return, the wife feels even less loved and even more punished by her husband, and we have a classic circular pattern which just keeps going round and round, making both sides crazier and crazier.
No one can stand the pain and discomfort and reinforced negativity of being in a circular pattern for long. Let's remember: they aren't really fighting about the money. Once the husband realizes that his wife has some deeper needs that he hasn't been fulfilling since way back when they first got married, he'll start trying to fulfill them. And when he does, the money issue all but disappears. It's practically gone. Why? Because now, the wife is receiving much more...Continue reading here...
Research shows that if you expect people to treat you well they are more likely to do so. If people with all their flaws reciprocate your good vibes imagine what Hashem does for people who expect him to be kind, generous, protective etc.!
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What are the events, factors, and turning points in marriage that cause love to increase over the years, and what unfortunately causes the opposite to happen? With the US divorce rate climbing to almost 60%, marital experts are finally studying marriages based on traditional values rather than those based on romantic love; and the researching findings are simply amazing! This is a critically important video. Please share it if you can.
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With the US divorce rate climbing to almost 60%, marital experts are suggesting that we consider the reasons why marriages based on more traditional values are doing so much better. What do 22 marriages where love has grown have in common despite being from nine countries and five religions? You'll be amazed at the answer!
G-d Willing we'll be broadcasting today's lesson live from the Chut Shel Chesed Yeshiva in Jerusalem at 5:00 PM Israel time.
The broadcast, as well as my lessons posted are Mac and iPod compatible. If you tune in too early to the live broadcast link, you'll be sent to the main page of the Breslev Israel website, so try to tune in as follows:
7:00 AM in LA and the West Coast, 8:00 AM Denver, 9:00 AM Mexico and Central Daylight, 10 AM EDT, 3 PM in the UK, 5:00 PM Johannesburg and Capetown, 5:00 PM Israel. G-d willing, we'll try and post a link to the lesson for all those who couldn't see it live by 12:o1 AM Monday morning. If you can't see the broadcast, you might need to download a new version of Flash Media player, which you can do here.
When your Belief is strong you are congruent and powerful. A person who has clarified the Truth, has a powerful purpose for living. With his love of people and his G-d given strength, he can fire awesome spirituality into human hearts. This video is for you!
Say you're a parent with a disrespectful, disruptive child. A child who's acting out, and child who's going off the path, G-d forbid. The normal, natural initial response for a parent is to ask themselves: what's going on here? Why is this good? But then, we can take it up a level: Why is this happening? What's the message? How can I relate to this in a productive way?
Here's one possible idea: Kids are the purest beings on the planet. (We were that way too, when we were kids.) All kids have the intention, deep down, to be helpful to their parents. If that kid is misbehaving, acting out, off the derech, in a certain sense, it means they've taken control of the family. It's unhealthy, yes, but kids need connection, attention, parents.
If the parents are struggling; if the family unit is breaking apart; that kid doesn't want to have a divorce in the family, G-d forbid. If the only way he can keep his family intact is by creating an emergency situation, or 'shock', then that's what he's going to do.
I've never seen a divorce in a family where a kid was suicidal, anorexic, or self-mutilating...See more here...
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Humans have eight emotional needs that must be fulfilled in one way or another - healthy or unhealthy. In this broadcast, I speak about this in relation to three couples and one individual receiving Emuna Coaching. I'm bringing this to you, courtesy of Breslev Israel. It's our gift to you!
The Ballen family moved last week and I didn't have much time to prepare for this broadcast - so I used the time I had to pray - Hashem answered me with loving-kindness - and I think it's one of my best. I hope you enjoy it!